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February 10th, 2015
February 10th, 2015
Young Adult | Parent Support | Research

Teen Sexting

 

In November’s The Atlantic magazine (“Why Kids Sext”) and in a follow-up Radio West interview, Hannah Rosin debunks some of the hysteria and then informs adults (and parents, specifically) around the new technological phenomenon of sexting – the transmission of sexually-explicit images by cellphone and adolescence.

A first philosophical concern is, is it ‘child porn’?  In every state that hasn’t rewritten specific laws specifically to address sexting, any lascivious picture of a minor is considered a felony; the clarity around penal codes disappears when the descriptor “self-produced” precedes child porn.  There must be some distinguishing related to consensual use.

Sexting is, or is becoming, a part of a modern teen’s life, despite parents’ horror about its potential for exploitation.  For some, this is a way of expressing intimacy (and is therefore “safe sex”) without sexual contact, but sexting is becoming a common form of expressing sexuality; this is an example of expressing trust at the most intimate level.  Did you know that boys sext just as often as girls?  Importantly, girls rarely request it and boys sometimes use repeated sexting to coerce a response in kind. And because of the “norming” of explicit sexuality or risky behavior in tv culture and through the simple access of online pornography, the culture reinforces girls’ understanding that sexting is a “normal” and expected sharing between young lovers.

teen sexting infographic

What can a parent, who discovers photos on a child’s phone - who wants to be empathetic, and informed but instinctively leaps to contain assumed damage… what can these parents do?  Rosin warns that the fear and anguish for the very large majority of children comes from the parents overreacting. “The humiliation comes from the fact of the adult involvement… the humiliation for the teens is not in the initial sending of the sext… If they are sexually active and have cell phones, [consensual sexting] is part of the DNA of how they communicate.”  (research study: Teen sexting and its association with sexual behaviors)

Contrary to the adolescent’s point of view, many parents approach any “discussion” from the perspective that sexting is a self-inflicted, stupid, and life-long catastrophe that usually requires police assistance.  There are a few instances where the digital age has made this the only reasonable response.  In contrast with the exponentially more-common form of provocative telecommunication (“30% of upper high schoolers consistently report they sext”), researchers are attempting to distinguish “pressured sexting” and non-consensual sharing as the criminal events, where an aggressor has repeatedly sent sexts and manipulates for a reply.  As stated repeatedly, this kind of sext does occur, but rarely, resulting in the not-at-all-common but an incendiary and traumatic incident that gets attention in the media, and around the water cooler, and traumatizes everyone who did not intend to publicize this image.

 

If you have a son or daughter who you believe is addicted to technology check out the teen programs that focus on addiction.  There are specific teen treatment programs or treatment approaches, like wilderness therapy that address this in particular.  

About the Author

Jenney Wilder M.S.Ed launched All Kinds of Therapy in 2015, as the only independent online directory for the Family Choice Behavioral Healthcare Industry. With an impressive case of ADHD and her starter career in the 90's in Silicon Valley, the dream for creating a website with features like side-by-side comparison and an integrated newsletter was born. Jenney stopped counting treatment centers and all types of schools that she has visited when she hit 500 many years ago. She was the sponsoring author of the only Economic Impact Study of the Family Choice Behavioral Healthcare Industry, which revealed the only true financial figures about this industry (in Utah). Jenney has a Masters in Special Education from Bank Street College (NY) and a Bachelors of Arts focused on History from Wheaton College (MA).

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