All Kinds of News for June 07, 2017
Turn-About Ranch involves parents in the therapeutic process throughout the program. As each child progresses through the program, it is essential that parents do their part. It is true, the transition home is harder than the treatment itself. There are many essential things parents need to do in order to help their child maintain the changes made in treatment. The following are 3 critical items no parent should overlook.
Purpose: Helping your child find a new focus and purpose that replaces their past focus on technology and friends and whatever else brought them into treatment. It’s great to be sober but if that’s all you’re doing, it won’t last. Help your teen explore hobbies, job opportunities, interests and volunteering or job shadowing to help them find something they are excited about doing. This purposeful activity should be one that helps them grow, feel significant, contribute, and happens more than once a week so it fills a time slot that would help keep them busy and out of trouble. Ask friends and associates (home team members) if they have ideas, contacts that may create an opportunity for your teen.
Relationship: Don’t forget to nurture your relationship. The key reason teens will follow the home contract and rules that it contains is because they care what you think. So help them continue to care. Remember the three areas that give you the biggest relationship “bang for your buck” are:
- Do something in their love language (Physical Touch, Quality Time, Service, Gifts, or Words of Affirmation) Do it when they least expect it- when they have disappointed you or the relationship needs repair
- Do something Surprising! Respond in a way that is out of character for you or participate in something they enjoy that they would never expect you to join in on. Ask them to sit down with you and have a bowl of ice cream with you and tell you about their night (even if they were 15 minutes late - save the lecture and let the consequence be the teacher.
- Make them the expert: Ask your teen to help you do something that they are better at. Ask their advice on a new hair style, or to show you how to change the oil in your car. Even better if it is something they learned on the ranch.
Communicate: Talk to each other! Do it often and in short increments. Don’t wear them out by long drawn out conversations. Consider timing. When your teen is in the middle of their favorite video game, shutting off the electronic device and asking them to join a conversation almost guarantees that the conversation is not going to go well. Remember the 4 horsemen and how damaging they can be to open and honest conversations. Model taking responsibility for mistakes and apologize if needed.
About Turn-About Ranch
Turn-About Ranch is a wilderness therapy and residential treatment program located in the heart of Southern Utah’s canyon country. Students experience life on a real working ranch while undergoing treatment to improve their life back home. Surrounded by multiple national parks and the Grand Staircase-Escalante National Monument, Turn-About Ranch is the ideal location for youth of today to have the space they need to find healing and purpose.