All Kinds of News for November 08, 2017
Calo Teen parents recently headed to Lake Ozark for a Fall retreat. Retreats are a great opportunity to engage parents in experiential activities and provide valuable shared experiences for students, their parents and the Calo Teens staff.
This season's theme was Restoring Trust. This topic was initially introduced last summer with parents using Calo's treatment model CASA, and introduced how Complex Developmental Trauma interferes with the development of trust and how the components of the CASA help to restore it.
Utilizing safe, experiential activities to demonstrate consistent Boundaries, Reliability (consistency and predictability), Integrity (courage to do what is right, even when it is difficult, to demonstrate commitment and security in the family relationships), Accountability (in trusting relationships, by practicing the process of repair that is a key aspect of the Calo treatment model and crucial in developing and maintaining trusting relationships), parents and students practiced the core tenets of CASA and experienced connection and improved trust.
Another highlight for families was an activity based around Brene’ Brown’s analogy that “Trust is like a Marble Jar”. Families created their own Marble Jar, where they identified the small interactions that occur within their relationship that contribute to the growth and restoration of trust, which were represented by marbles added to their jar. The most powerful aspect of this activity was the realization that just as trust is not built by one big ‘Marble Moment', neither is it destroyed by one big ‘Marble Moment’. Thus, a break in trust does not empty the entire marble jar, but instead removes one or two marbles, which can then be restored by one or two acts of trust. This simple activity not only reduced the overwhelming task of restoring trust to a manageable goal, but also inspired hope that restoring trust is attainable within their relationship.
The Neurotherapy department also presented information on the Neurobiology of Complex Developmental Trauma, and the many factors of the Fear Driven Brain that interfere with their children’s ability to experience security, acceptance and trust in relationships, as well as respond in ways that reflect their desire for connection and trust.
A parent support group provided the opportunity for paretns to receive true understanding, empathy and hope from others.
“It helped me further understand my son and the work that has to be done. I liked the explanation of the brain."
“The entire theme and the break out sessions that corresponded to each specific element were very beneficial. The best one was the Marble Jar exercise.”
The staff support was outstanding!
“B.R.A.V.I.N.G. was an awesome exploration of subject matter, opportunities for conversations, scheduled activities were a great mix of fun & challenge”.
The Boundary exercise and writing down, by both parents and kids, of their needs opened my mind greatly. The blindfold exercise reminded me of the need for trust. The marbles reinforced and reminded me of the need to recognize my son’s accomplishments”.
“Thank you again for your love, care and commitment to our son”.
“The biology and physiology of our kids is so very important to remember, and that they are doing the best they can. Excellent work by all!! Thank you Calo!!”
About Calo Teens
Created with the need for specialty care in mind and with almost a decade of outcomes (over 400 families), Calo Teens is the first treatment center focused on adoptive families. Calo Teens implements a true relational-based treatment approach to create change from the inside out… heart first, and behavior second.